Curiousity In Conflict
We all will find ourselves in a conflict situation at one time or another in our lives. In her book, High Conflict, author Amanda Ripley provides an insightful framework for understanding conflict, how we get into it, when it is harmful and how to get out.
At the end of the book she also provides some key questions to aid in understanding personal involvment, facilitating a better understanding of the situation and bring it closer to a resolution.
Healthy conflict leads somewhere. Questions get asked and curiosity exists. High conflict has its destination in the conflict itself.
~Amanda Ripley
Questions for You:
Does it need to be said? If yes, then ask #2
Does it need to be said by me? If yes, then ask #3
Does it need to be said by me right now? If yes, then kindly speak up
Questions for the Conflict:
What is oversimplified about this conflict?
What do you want to understand about the other side?
What do you want the other side to understand about you?
What would it feel like if you woke up and this problem was solved?
What’s the question nobody’s asking?
What do you want to know about this controversy that you don’t already know?
Where do you feel torn?
Tell me more.
“The more abstract people become, the more capable we are of doing them harm.”